This is a critical issue, because people believe that the very nature of constantly dealing with one person through all the difficulties and troubles in life would produce boredom. But – and this is a big but – consider the fact that so many relationships (and affairs) actually begin in the workplace as a result of dealing everyday with major and minor problems, nuisances and dilemmas. So managing problems isn’t necessarily the cause of boredom at all
We have to then assume that something very different must be going on there. And I’d say that it’s likely related to the more respectful ways in which we treat our colleagues and that we actively value their input. We’re simply better behaved in the workplace and we take more problem-solving approaches when we’re there. At home, the daily chagrins and annoyances too often get complained about or ‘taken out on’ the other person. Far too many people tell me that it’s at home where “you’re supposed to be able to vent” and “they have to listen”. They just get lazy in interpersonal responsiveness. They learned this watching their parents do it, and they’re modeling the same behavior to their own children – so everyone thinks it’s normal.
Consider trying to see your companion as a participant and an asset, and someone who’ll be a true collaborator. You’ll be surprised at how much more attracted you’ll feel – and they toward you. It’s sexy watching each other using strong skills to lead on an issue; yet it’s something that happens in the workplace all the time.